Tuesday, November 24, 2015

Yes, my son is a daydreamer

I am sharing here an article I read today, as I can relate so very much. I do not think it's ADHD, although I would be happy to find out the real score. The sooner, the better. But I think it is just more of like raising a mini genious, as far as my own observations as a mother could tell.


Daydreaming Kids May Be Brighter, Say Scientists


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Is you child a daydreamer, always lost in their own thoughts, and easily distracted?

Are you forever nagging them to get a move on, pick things up, do this, do that, because they never seem to pay attention to a single thing you say?

Well, first the bad news: there isn't a thing you can do about it.

And now the good: you may be raising a mini-genius!

For new research says absent-minded children might actually have sharper brains.

Their study showed that those who appear to be constantly distracted in fact have more "working memory", giving them the ability to do two things at the same time.

The researchers asked participants to either press a button in response to the appearance of a certain letter on a screen, or tap in time with their breath.

The researchers checked periodically to ask if their minds were wandering. At the end, they measured the participants' working memory capacity, giving them a score for their ability to remember a series of letters interspersed with easy maths questions.

The results of the research, by Daniel Levinson, a psychologist at the University of Wisconsin-Madison and published online in Psychological Science, are the first to show the association with mind-wandering and intelligence.

It's thought the extra mental workspace is used, for instance, when adding up two spoken numbers without being able to write them down.

Its capacity has been associated with general measures of intelligence, such as reading comprehension and IQ score.

As the stepfather of a daydreamy 10-year-old, these findings make perfect sense to me.
History is famously populated by geniuses who could barely put their underpants on yet solved some of science's greatest mysteries. Isaac Newton was one; Albert Einstein another. Both absent-minded professors.

And although I don't think mine is quite in the atom-splitting league of intelligence, this research has certainly given her mother and I some cause for optimism.

At the moment, we spend our lives nagging our girl. "Have you packed your homework? Have you cleaned your teeth? Where's your P.E. kit? What on earth is going on with your hair? GET IT BRUSHED."

While all this is happening, she wanders around in a daze. Literally away with the fairies in her head.

She comes home from school, drops her bags and coat in the middle of the living room and steps away from them, leaving them in a pile for us to tidy up.

She goes into her bedroom to do her homework only to emerge an hour later with some drawings of butterflies or an outline of a play she'd like to perform with her brothers i.e. absolutely, completely, nothing whatsoever to do with the maths she was sent in there to do.

But it's not because she's belligerent or stroppy – though as a typical 10 year-old she certainly has her moments – it's because her thoughts always seem to be elsewhere.
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In fact, she often seems so absent in the mind-stakes that we have a nickname for her: Dolly Daydream. And our easily-distracted daughter drives me and her mother to distraction.
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We have had endless discussions about how to get her to engage more; how to get her to focus on the task at hand. But no amount of hand-wringing or cajoling has worked so in the end we concluded: "It's just the way she is."

And now it seems that the way she is might actually be a Very Good Thing.

Cognitive therapist Dan Roberts told Parentdish.co.uk: "if your child is a bit of a daydreamer, I certainly wouldn't worry about it.

"As this new study on working memory suggests, appearing distracted or absent-minded may be a sign that your child's brain is more adept at performing a number of different tasks at the same time, rather than having to concentrate hard on one thing after another.

"While parents do have to encourage their children to knuckle down, both in school and when slogging through homework, it's crucial that we don't make kids feel bad or inadequate just because their minds seem to wander.

"For brighter children, a great deal of their schoolwork is likely to be mundane, so their daydreaming may also be a sign of boredom. If so, the key is to find subjects that stimulate and engage them, rather than getting frustrated or impatient when their attention flits about."

I doubt very much that my stepdaughter has genius tendencies, but she is unquestionably as sharp as a tack. For a recent school fair, she set up her own "Body Art" parlour – and made the princely sum of £50. Last week, she got an A+ in French. And the week before that, she was top of her year in a spelling challenge.

Yes, she might be a Dolly Daydream, but I'd like to think it's not because she's lazy, thoughtless or rude – but that her mind is so full of plans for world domination that she has no room in her massive brain to pick up a couple of wet towels from the bathroom floor.

As long as she shares her vast wealth with me and her mother one day, we'll just have to put up with it.

Wednesday, May 13, 2015

I miss you



It's been 5 days since you left for a vacation with your cousins and it feels like eternity. I can't believe how I am surviving right now. I knew it's going to be a challenge for me but I let  you go anyway, in spite of your own hesitations. The experience will be good for you. You need to explore the world, to learn independence, to meet different kinds of people, to see how far you can go with each experience, with each new discovery. I praise and thank the Lord for taking care of you and keeping you safe, for allowing me the experience of trusting in him with all my heart to hold you, when I can't.

I can't wait for you to come home and hear your stories. I can't wait to see how much you've grown. 

Friday, September 26, 2014

Gabriel's Diary




The scientist and the explorer wants to document his journey.



And he calls it FED: Fun, exciting, diary.



I wonder why it's not good. I am allowed to access his diary anytime but he won't elaborate with what he's written in it. "It's there in my safe, you can read it but don't ask me anything more about what I write in it." I hope he won't mind if I post it in his blog. 



Indeed he is!



Listen up adults. This is coming from my nine-year-old. 



Looks like the scientist has an exciting schedule coming up. 

Monday, September 15, 2014

We beat Dengue!





We just beat dengue once again. My son was only four when he was inflicted with this deadly viral decease and he beat it heroically. It wasn't easy to get a very picky four-year-old to eat all the time, since dengue doesn't have any cure and the only best way to combat it is to make sure the patient eats a lot and takes a lot of fluids. We tried tawa-tawa that time and I was pretty sure that was the one that helped the platelet rise. But this time, I lost most of my faith in tawa-tawa. Since day one of his very high fever, I already gave him tawa-tawa. But still, after the 3-day fever and we went for a blood test, his result showed that his platelet count dropped to 88. I was so scared and I rushed him to the hospital even though that time he said he was already feeling well. He was actually eating already and gaining his strength back. He said he was feeling all normal. But I wanted to make sure.

First day at the hospital his platelet count showed 115 so I had high hopes. We went on with tawa-tawa, cmd mineral drops, gatorade, yakult, pineapple juice, all those stuff that everyone suggested. Second day, we had a plateau. It was still 115. I was beginning to worry. And on our third day, it dropped to 102. I was crying and crying I was so scared. Then someone sent me a message telling me to try papaya leaves extract, which I did immediately.
We pounded the papaya leaf and extracted its juice, mixed some honey with it to pacify the bitterness and had my son drink the bitter but miraculous herbal medicine. Yes, indeed it was miraculous. Because the following morning, the blood test result his platelet count rose to 168, thanks be to God, the maker of everything including papaya! I am still in awe and I am writing this article to share to others who, God forbid, will undergo the same ordeal such as we have undergone. 

Wednesday, September 10, 2014

Gabriel vs Dengue

Photo: Dengue again. Asking for your prayers Hernan Hormillosa Josephine Montuya Hannah Louise Carter Anacita Cabana Egana Mira Vanleeuwen Jing Abetong BaƱas Mary Joy Rile Resty Fernandez Suela Gee-Gee Dimayuga

You made it when you were only four. You will make it again now. There is nothing that you cannot overcome. There is nothing that we cannot overcome. Together. Thank you my dear son for being such a strong warrior. Thank you for bearing the days when I, too, was sick with high fever, chilling and vomiting like you, and yet you put all of it on hold for you, just so you can take care of me and worry about me no end. I can't imagine those couple of nights when I was supposed to be taking care of you but you had to endure all of it by yourself. I praise and thank the Lord for the gift of you. In spite of the darkness of my life right now, you are the light, you keep my hope alive. I am in too much pain, I am so scared, the times are too precarious, but just looking at you reminds me so much of how much I need to fight and remain strong. I feel so blessed to have you. Thank you for being my strength. I will never be able to go through this all without you. God knew too well why he gave me you.

Sunday, July 13, 2014

Called to be a Mother




I am not the wisest of all parents in the world. As much as I would like others to realize that right parenting is the most important thing this world needs, to end the war, poverty and chaos, I do not claim to know everything. I am still learning. Every day, I am learning and growing with my son. It makes my journey as a mother not just delightful but very meaningful. I guess what we parents only need first of all, is the humility to accept the fact that we do not know everything, especially when it comes to raising our children. The problem with most of us is that we think that as parents, we have the right to be correct all the time. We think that since we are the parents, we have all the privilege of being obeyed at all times, of being right at all times, of being the only one to be talking at all times. I know that because I too am tempted once in a while to think that way.

I am a parent, yes. But I am also a child of God. If you are reading this and you don't believe in the existence of someone greater than us, then you can stop reading this right away. God is a father. He, too, like me is a parent. Who else will I turn to for parenting tips but him? Who else best knows how to properly raise my son but him? And so I turn to his words for comfort when raising my son sometimes becomes challenging. I turn to him for advice in times when I am confused with what to do. I turn to him because I know he will never fail me. He called me to become a parent in the first place, didn't he?

I do not own my son. He is not my property, my possession. I am only a steward. My son was entrusted to me by the Lord so that I can teach him his ways and he too can be holy like he is called to be. It's only been 8 years since I became a mother. I still have a lifetime ahead of me to learn the ropes. But yes each day matters like it's the last. That's why I sieze it, every minute of it. And at the end of the day, I may not have done everything right, but it makes me feel right to be able to kneel down and pray with my son, read to him the bible and be assured that we are being taken care of by the best parent in the world, our God the Father.

Thursday, July 10, 2014

Getting to know his friends and growing up with them



Motherhood is about getting to know my son and getting to know his friends. It warms my heart to know his friends like to hang out with him at home, sometimes they make a surprise visit and I invite them to join us for a meal. Last night we reviewed their homework together and I could see how happy my son was. I learn and I grow up with them.

Monday, May 12, 2014

One Painting Sold for KWADERNO!

Just sold one painting for P100  he can now buy his 10 pieces of notebooks to be donated to KWADERNO. He wants to sell another one of his works so he can donate more. http://notebooksforlife.blogspot.com/



Thursday, April 24, 2014

His first ever short story





Now he wants to be a writer

You can be anything you want to be
You can be anything I want you to be
You can be an astronaut, 
a teacher, or maybe a captain or a pilot
You can be an artist that 
you seem you are right now
Or you can be a writer
like I am, or a priest
even if with that you raise a brow. 
You can be a hero, 
not the Power ranger kind, 
but someone with a huge heart
for a kid that nobody minds. 
You can be a teacher 
that every learner would surely love, 
Or you can be a painter 
that paints the sky above. 
You can be someone not in this crazy list 
Anywhere you go someday I know 
you will make life a bliss
God wants you "to bring joy wherever you go" 
I'm sure that's what you surely know.